A-Gender : Person who does not identify as having a gender.
Asexual : Person who is not sexually attracted to any genders or identities.
Bi-Curious : Person who is interested in a sexual relationship with the same sex, but doesn’t identify as Bisexual.
Bi-Gender : Person who identifies as having two or more identities, sometimes at the same time.
Bisexual : Person who is equally attracted to the opposite sex and same sex.
Bottom : Person who agrees to receive kinky activities and stimulation.
Cisgender : Person who identifies with the gender they were assigned at birth.
Cross Dresser / Transvestite : Person who dresses as the opposite sex.
Dominant : Can be any gender, controls the relationship or activity consensually.
Drag King : Female person dressed as the opposite sex, often quite flamboyantly.
Drag Queen : Male person dressed as the opposite sex, often quite flamboyantly.
Evolving : Person who is defining their gender identity with gradual change.
Fetishist : Person who is sexually aroused by specific objects, clothing or body parts.
Gay : Person who is male and is attracted to other males.
Gender Fluid : Person who moves between different genders or identities.
Hedonist : Person who actively pursues kinky or sexual pleasure.
Heteroflexible : Person who is usually attracted to the opposite sex, but sometimes to the same sex.
Homoflexible. : Person who is homosexual, but is sometimes attracted to people of the opposite sex.
Intersex : Person whose sexual and reproductive anatomy at birth does not identify them as male or female. Previously known as hermaphrodites.
Lesbian : Person who is female and is attracted to other females.
Masochist : Person who enjoys receiving pain or humiliation.
Master : (Masculine) person who has agreed to have ownership of the person they are in a relationship with.
Mistress : Feminine person who has agreed to have ownership of the person they are in a relationship with.
Non-Binary : Person whose gender identity does not fit traditional male or female definitions.
Pan Sexual : Person who is attracted to people of all genders and identities.
Polyamorous : Person who has more than one intimate relationship at a time. Multiple Relationships Concurrently.
Primal : Person who ignores traditional rules or protocols and makes their own rules in relation to their own preferences and sexual needs.
Rigger : Person who specializes in the Art of Shibari / rope tying.
Sadist : Person who enjoys humiliating or inflicting (pain) / (suffering) on someone else.
Sadomasochist : Person who both enjoys receiving pain or humiliation, as well as giving pain and humiliation.
Slave : Person of any gender who consensually gives full control to the person they are in a relationship with.
Straight : Person who is attracted to the opposite sex.
Swinger : Person who has consensual sex and relationships in addition to their committed relationship.
Switch : Person of any gender who is sometimes dominant, sometimes submissive.
Top : Person who agrees to control kinky activities and stimulation.
Transgender : Person who identifies with a different gender to the one they were assigned at birth.
Trans Man : Person who identifies as a man, but was not assigned that gender at birth.
Transsexual : Person who is transitioning to the gender they identify as.
Trans Woman : Person who identifies as a woman, but was not assigned that gender at birth.
Queer : Person who doesn’t identify with traditional genders or sexual orientations.
Vanilla : Person who has no kinks or fetishes. (Plain Vanilla)
Voyeur : Person who enjoys watching others, but does not participate.
Terms to Avoid/Use with Caution
Sexual Preference: Better to use Sexual Orientation
Homosexual: Better to use Gay or Lesbian
Homosexual Couple: Better to use Couple, or Gay / Lesbian Couple
These are our definitions and are widely accepted terms.